Interpersonal Communication Thought Reflection Paper
Order ID 53563633773 Type Essay Writer Level Masters Style APA Sources/References 4 Perfect Number of Pages to Order 5-10 Pages Description/Paper Instructions
INTERPERSONAL COMMUNICATION
Thought Paper/Video Project Instructions
For Thought Paper/video Project you may select one of the following options:
From Another Standpoint
Dating Sites (for single, currently unattached people)
Couple Talk (for people in a committed relationship)
Intimate Relationships in the Movies
Attraction and Dating
Break-up Stories
Thought Papers should be double spaced, with one-inch margins using 11-point font. Depending on which option is selected papers should be 8-12 pages in length. Below is the grading form that I use to grade the Thought Paper. Take a look at this grading form and keep it in mind as you are writing your paper. Grading rubrics for both paper and video are on Blackboard as well.
Demonstrated an understanding of the material–you 75 _____
read it, you got it. You cited from the text and lecture.
Discussed and responded to specific information in
the reading.
Depth of analysis–thoughtful and insightful
writing; explored topic with depth 25 _____
Thoroughness–you explored the topic
thoroughly; content did not contain “fluff” 75 _____
Self-perception–you examined yourself and your own 25 _____
relationships; related personally to the information
and/or reading; gave examples from your own life
to back up your points
Application of material–you told me specifically
how you intend to use this information 25 _____
Writing–your writing met with expectations for a
college student; little to no errors in grammar,
spelling or punctuation 25 _____
TOTAL 250 __________
THOUGHT PAPER OPTIONS
From Another Standpoint
- Read Chapter 4 in your text entitled “Perceiving Others”. (If you have read it already, review it closely to refresh your memory and improve your understanding.)
- a.) Respond to the chapter. What interested you? What makes the most sense to you? What doesn’t make sense to you? Did you enjoy reading it? Did it make you think? What part(s) specifically? b.) What factors do think most affect your perception? When have you fallen subject to any of the common tendencies in perception? (We judge ourselves more charitably than we do others. We are influenced by the obvious. We cling to first impressions. We assume others are like us. We favor negative impressions.) c.) How well do you think you do with the two tools discussed for perceiving others more accurately: perception checking and building empathy?
- Choose a disagreement you presently have with another person or group. The disagreement might be a personal one–such as an argument about how to settle a financial problem or household duties–or it might be a dispute over a contemporary public issue such as gun control. Describe the background of the situation sufficiently so that Prof. Dunn will be able to understand the remainder of the exercise. (This section will vary in length according to the complexity of the problem.)
- Write a personal letter to your “opponent” stating your arguments and why you take the position you take. Your letter should be long enough to develop your ideas.
- Now put yourself in the other person’s position. Write a letter to you, as if written by your “opponent” in which you present his/her side of the issue.
- Now show the two letters to your “opponent”–the person whose beliefs or opinions are different than yours. Have that person read your account of his/her side and correct any statements that don’t reflect his/her opinion accurately.
- Write in any corrections or additions to the bottom of the letter. When (s)he agrees that you understand his/her position, have him/her sign the letter to indicate this.
- Finish by recording your conclusion to this experiment. Has this perceptual shift made any differences in how you view the issue or how you feel about your partner/”opponent”?
Dating Sites
Note: This Thought Paper is an option for someone who is currently single and unattached.
- Read Chapter Chapter 9 in your text, paying particular attention to attraction theories. Review your lesson notes on attraction theory.
- Sign up on a dating site or app. Something like Match.com. Make sure to use a dating site that people write descriptions of themselves—not just rely on a swipe based on looks. Analyze MANY ads for which to apply material from lecture and your text about attraction. Cite from the ads in your analysis.
- Analyze the ads. Look for the following:
- a) How do the advertisers represent themselves? What kind of things do they reveal
about themselves? What do they think their “selling points” are? Do they portray
themselves as highly competent…..or somewhat flawed? What rewards do they
offer? Can you tell what they believe the opposite sex is searching for from the way
they wrote their ad?
- b) What are they looking for in a partner? What elements of similarity seem apparent?
Do they seem to be looking for someone just like themselves? What elements of
complementarity are they seeking? What about proximity? Are they looking for
someone geographically close to them? What rewards are they seeking?
- c) Do there seem to be any differences between the genders? Which gender seems
to be more interested in appearance? Does one gender seem to be seeking
similarity more? Complementarity more? Proximity more? Are there gender
differences in self disclosure?
- Write an analysis of all the ads you examined. Answer the above questions. Cite directly from the ads as examples of your analysis.
- Now write your own ad seeking a romantic partner. Your ad should be approximately 200 words long. Decide what appearance elements are important enough for you to list. What similarity traits would you want in a partner? What characteristics that are complementary to yours do you find attractive? What rewards are important to you in a relationship? How do you describe yourself? What characteristics do you choose to self disclose? What traits do you list that you believe a potential partner would find attractive about you?
- What does your ad say about attraction theory? Do you fit the research? Have you given much thought to what characteristics you are attracted to? Has this changed over time?
Couple Talk
- Read Chapters 9 and 10 in your textbook. Look over your notes from the lesson on “Couple Talk” (the 10 Commandments of Clean Communication, cognitive distortions and negative schemas)
- Discuss the material from the book and lesson that was the most interesting and meaningful to you. Do you use any of the negative patterns examined? Does your partner (did your former partner)? How does/did that affect your relationship? What cognitive distortions do you have about your partner and his/her behavior? What negative schemas do you carry?
- Do either of the following:
- Keep a “Thought Diary” much like the one on the course site (Arlene’s Thought Diary). For each
entry, identify the distortion–tunnel vision, assumed intent, magnifying, etc. (You only need to include
about 5 entries, however.) Then, work through the “Clear Thinking Drill” Write all this down. Did it
help? What did you learn? Attach your Thought Diary and Clear Thinking Drill together and hand
everything in.
- Video or audiotape yourself and a partner in conversation. Which of the “Ten Commandments” did
you or your partner break? Did you use whole messages? When did you or he/she react instead of
respond? If videotaped, was body language open and receptive? How did tone and paralanguage
affect the message? What did you notice? What did you learn? How can you change to improve
your communication style
Intimate Relationships in Movies
- Read chapters 9 and 10 in your text. Briefly discuss the main ideas and content of the chapters that you found most interesting or meaningful in the introduction of your thought paper.
- Gain access to watch the movie About Last Night (the original 1986 version with Rob Lowe and Demi Moore—not the remake) and watch it. If you know of another movie you would like to do, check it with me first. (However, I have found that About Last Night is the best for looking at all the material we have covered. WARNING: About Last Night contains some pretty racy sex scenes, nudity and profanity. If you do not like to view this, you are free to select another film. Just check your film with Prof. Dunn before proceeding.)
- First trace the developmental phases of the relationship(s) as discussed in the lesson. At what point was each couple at attraction (physical, similarity, proximity, complementarity); escalation (invitational, explorational, intensifying and revising); navigation (relational culture and placemaking); and deterioration (dyadic breakdown, intrapsychic phase, dyadic negotiation, social phase, social support, grave dressing)? What makes you think so?
- What types of love do you think each person uses?
- How does each couple do with the “Ten Commandments?” When do they break them? When do they do a good job keeping them? Give specific examples.
- What about cognitive distortions or negative schemas? Do you see any evidence of these?
THOUGHT VIDEO PROJECT OPTIONS
Attraction and Dating
- Look over your lesson notes on relationship attraction theory and escalation from class. Find the sections of your text that discusses developmental phases of relationships. Be sure to include both lesson and text material in your project. You should interview a minimum of 3 people–more is better.
- Gain access to a camcorder, a camera that shoots video or use your cell phone. (If using your cell phone, make sure the quality is good and audio is loud enough). Prepare a set of questions to use as prompts.
- Interview people you know, students at Baruch or other schools asking them to talk about their current relationship while being recorded. How did they meet? What made them initially attracted to their partner? How did they handle invitational communication? How did they know the other person was attracted to them? How did the relationship progress? How did they know they were getting “serious”? When did they know they had a commitment? How long did it take before they felt they were in love? Who said “I love you” first? Etc.
- Now take all your raw footage and edit it into a video. Find all the interview comments that demonstrate course material. Make sure your final version is no longer than 10 minutes. Add subtitles or voice over to the interviews to reveal when each person is talking about course material. Try to find examples of all different types of attraction and phases of escalation (explorational, intensifying, revising). For example, if someone mentions that they met because they lived next door to each other, you could put a subtitle “Proximity”. You can do this while she is speaking and put the subtitle under her face, or you can use a title card before you show that comment. Look for examples of private cultures, self disclosure, idealizing, personalized communication, etc.
- Put some final comments in your film. You can do this with title cards or record yourself speaking on camera or in voiceover. What did you discover? What are the implications? What did you learn? How can this knowledge be used to increase our understanding about why and how relationships start and progress?
- Upload your video to YouTube. Be sure to select the Unlisted setting. Be prepared to send Prof. Dunn a link to your unlisted video on YouTube on the due date.
Break-up Stories
- Look over your lesson notes on relationship maintenance and deterioration from class. Find the sections of your text that discusses developmental phases of relationships. Be sure to include both lesson and text material in your project. You should interview a minimum of 3 people–more is better.
- Gain access to a camcorder, a camera that shoots video or use your cell phone. (If using your cell phone, make sure the quality is good and audio is loud enough). Prepare a set of questions to use as prompts.
- Interview people you know, students at Baruch or other schools asking them to tell the story of a relationship’s deterioration and grave dressing on camera. Why did the relationship start to go badly? What is the reason for the relationship to end? Who did the breaking up? What was that conversation like? How long did it take them to get over it? Etc.
- Now take all your raw footage and edit it into a video. Find all the interview comments that demonstrate course material. Make sure your final version is no longer than 10 minutes. Add subtitles or voice over to the interviews to reveal when each person is talking about course material. Try to find examples of all different phases of deterioration (dyadic breakdown, intrapsychic phase, dyadic negotiation, social phase, social support, grave dressing). For example, if a woman is saying that her friends took her side and were really there for her, put the subtitle “social support” on the screen. You can do this while she is speaking and put the subtitle under her face, or you can use a title card before you show that comment.
- Put some final comments in your film. You can do this with title cards or record yourself speaking on camera or in a voiceover. What did you discover? What are the implications? What did you learn? How can this knowledge be used to increase our understanding about why and how relationships fail and what is the best way to get over them?
Upload your video to YouTube. Be sure to select the Unlisted setting. Be prepared to send Prof. Dunn a link to your unlisted video on YouTube on the due date.
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